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  • Writer's pictureMona Cooley

Rockin 2022 - Do Something Different!

Brene Brown's book " Atlas of the Heart ( mapping meaningful connection and the language of human experience) focuses on emotions ( there are 87 emotions). The book has 13 chapters with emotions stated to fit the chapter. Fear is one of the emotions.

Witnessing the fear people are having with the times concerns me. One of Brene's statement in her book hit a nerve, " I've had to be super conscientious about the moral outrage and instead focus on doing the next right thing". This is the reason I wanted to write about fear today. The next right thing I can offer to you is a process to help yourself lessen your fear by asking you questions to help you think of how you are approaching your situations and an opportunity to do something different if what you are doing presently is not working.

Fear happens when we need to respond quickly whether it is physically or psychologically in danger. Fear can overwhelm our mind with thoughts and feelings when dealing with difficult situations. Each person experiences situations differently whether it is the stomach rolling, reacting to situations, or quietly stuffing what feeling or thinking about the situation. What is your approach to managing your fear factor?

As I mentioned, Brene has 13 chapters in her book with the emotions fitting the chapter.

Chapter 1 is "Places We Go When Things Are Uncertain Or Too Much" - fear is one of the 9 emotions listed. One of the participants who participated in our 10-week session stated what she learned about how she approached a concern about her situation. What she realized through the process it was not what she was doing wrong, it was about what she was going to do different. The process involved exploring her fears/concerns by answering questions posed to her.

When you answer the 5 questions below, I would suggest you write the answers to the questions. 3 things happen when your write the answers to the questions instead of leaving the thoughts bouncing around in your head.

  1. You release all the thoughts on paper that are bouncing around in your head

  2. Releasing them onto paper has your brain free of these thoughts

  3. Your mind will be clearer to consider to do something different


1. What is the reason you have fear about this situation?

2. What part of the situation do you have control of in order to manage it?

3. How have you managed situations previously?

4. What do you have control of, can you let go of what you can't control?

5. Based on what you can control, what would you do different to manage the situation?

If you have read this far, you were curious to know what was offered in this blog about fear. The blog was for you to be curious about fear and learn more about yourself in the process. If fear is overwhelming you, you may have a clearer idea of what to do different or it may validate what you are already doing is working.

Leaving you with a final thought. Life experiences have shown me what I need to know about myself in how I manage situations. Through my journey of life experiences, I have learned lessons through a process of trial and error. I realized through the hard knocks of life lessons reacting did not serve me well. When situations didn't change I had to do something different. Being more curious than reacting has changed how I approached situations to have better outcomes and more positive return on what I do today then I did before.

When you are faced with a situation that continues to disrupt your life, will you keep doing the same thing with nothing changing or will you do something different to have a better outcome? The choice is yours.

Your life matters, be kind to yourself and treat yourself with care. You deserve it!!!

Have a ROCKIN 2022

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