Families who participate in the 10-week session complete a characteristic sheet as a way to indicate what is happening in their family. The worksheet has two purposes:
1. Check the statement that fits your family situation;
2. Used as a guide to indicate your progress.
This sheet is a tool that helps individuals to check a statement that is relatable to them. Midway through the 10-weeks they refer back to the sheet to see what has changed. The participants are surprised how far they have progressed because it is hard to measure progress when it is one small win at a time. The small wins build into a momentum of change that impacts the family in a positive way. Knowing you are making progress creates more motivation to do more.
This is a gift for the next 4 weeks to all our subscribers. Pick one of the relatable statements below and send it to me at mona.cooley@coolfamilysolutions.com with the code "Tips for Issue" in the subject to receive some tips of how to work through your chosen issue.
Checklist of Characteristics of Family Dynamics
Mark an “X “ beside the situations that pertain to you at the moment
1. ___ Tip toeing – lost of what to say or do and scared of conflict
2. ___ Don’t know what to say or do to help family member
3. ___ Frustrated with the constant conflict
4. ___ Feeling hopeless anything will help or change
5. ___ Children not connecting with parent(s)
6. ___ Feeling helpless of knowing how to help or change things
7. ___ Don’t understand their behaviors
8. ___ Asking “why us or why me”
9. ___ Desperate to rescue loved one from pain and hurt
10. ___ Mental Illness/Addictions/struggles consumes the family
11. ___ Family near the brink of collapsing
12. ___ Severe illness – period of shock and disorganization
13. ___ Desperation for information and support
14. ___ Devastated when loved one is hospitalized with a psychotic episode
15. ___ Exhausted & depleted after second hospitalization (8 months after first one)
16. ___ Financial concerns
17. ___ Compassion – lack of understanding
18. ___ No motivation from loved one
19. ___ Isolation – feel alone dealing with issues
20. ___ Absorbed in loved ones life
21. ___ No self-care
22. ___ Cycle of fixing
23. ___ Poor decision making from loved one
24. ___ Drama – constant drama about situations
25. ___ Communication is more yelling than constructive conversations
26. ___ Boundaries are not consistent
27. ___ Other issues not listed
