NOT A LECTURE, IT'S HOW TO

What is meant by it is not a lecture, it's a how to?

Cool Family Solutions Families Helping Families 10-week session is NOT a Lecture, it is about "How To" approach Challenging Complex Family Dynamics that are crippling the family.

9 years ago, an individual was referred by a social worker to attend the Family Peer Support I was facilitating. I was told she was tough. She was not responding to what they were suggesting to her. She attended.

After listening to everyone in the Family Peer Group share their up-dates, it was her turn to share her situation. She shared her relationship between her and her daughter was not working. I asked her " ARE YOU PREPARED TO CHANGE?

She said, " YES, BUT I NEED TO KNOW HOW TO.

Everyone was telling her to LISTEN. She thought she was listening but no one was giving her any tips to know what to do different.

Understanding what she felt, I said "I hear what you are saying, I thought I was listening but realized I was jumping in to fix the person instead of listening to what they are saying."

She attended for six weeks in a row and kept returning, sharing her progress and asking questions when things weren't working with her loved one. She followed the following process:

• Learning the tools we teach in the session

• Practicing the tool weekly with her family member

• Sharing the experience with the group in the next session

• Understanding more about yourself

  
  

She joined the business and has contributed to the success of Cool Family Solutions. I value her honest input, administrative skills, notetaking, technical support and willing to share her story in our 10-week sessions.

A key point of the group sessions is that you are not alone. Hearing other participants share their experiences with challenges and conflict helps create a strong bond within the group. Also, you will hear how others are progressing due to committing to practicing the tools weekly which are important for everyone to benefit from the 10 sessions.  

As a facilitator, I facilitate the process of group conversations helping each person to think about how they see themselves approaching their situations.

We are not about fixing, we are about coaching you through a proven process and hearing what you think is your next step in the challenges you are facing. 

As situations appear, you will hear me share my lived experiences of challenges, conflict and how I changed my approach to having strong relationships with my biological families, adopted family and relationships with my own family of 4 children and husband.

Something to think about

"When you're listening to someone, are you truly hearing their words, or are you thinking about your response? Try to be present and pay attenetion to the words that stand out. When a word catches your attention, ask the person what it means to them. This curiosity can help you piece together the bigger picture, like assembling a puzzle."

• Be present, pay attention to the words that pop into your mind when you are listening to someone.

• When a word pops into your mind, be curious to ask what the word means to them.

• It is similar to a puzzle, when the pieces of the puzzle fit together you build on them.

Key points:

#Not a lecture, it's How to

#Are you prepared to Change

#Learning, Practicing, Sharing

#Facilitate the process of group conversations

#Are you listening

Mona Cooley - mona.cooley@coolfamilysolutions.com